Ready for Ally’s real name change story? Don’t miss how two military members fell in love, overcame COVID-19 wedding drama and how Ally chose to honor her father with a maiden to middle name change. You’ll also love her advice regarding the “love hangover!”
Ally’s Love Story
My husband Cody, and I met in the Army while we were both stationed in Missouri. We were invited to a bbq through a mutual acquaintance. And, even though we could have not been more different, we became inseparable! Only a few short months later Cody went back to his hometown in Alabama. So we began our 3 year long distance relationship. The long distance was hard, especially during my deployment. But after my contract was finished I decided to leave the Army and move to Alabama.
Cody proposed on December 22, 2019 in my hometown of Portland, Oregon on the greenest and most beautiful of hiking trails! Even though we lived in Alabama we decided we wanted to have the wedding in Oregon on November 15, 2020. After booking about half our vendors, COVID-19 hit and the lock down began. I traveled to Oregon in June for a venue walk through. Then I found out it would not be possible to have our wedding due to strict COVID-19 restrictions in Oregon. With so much of our relationship already taken away from us due to our jobs and the distance it was extremely important for us to have our wedding on our own terms. We decided against postponement and chose to move the wedding to Alabama.
Luckily I found the most incredible wedding coordinator, Sheriah Gibson of Posh Occasions. We planned the most beautiful wedding in just four months. One of our original vendors, our photographer, agreed to travel from Oregon and shoot our wedding. He was amazing! True to our original plan, Cody and I were married November 15, 2020 in a beautiful industrial loft in downtown Birmingham, Alabama. The guest list was a little smaller but love we felt from our family and friends, and for each other was even bigger!
Ally’s Name Change Narrative
My sister and I were out father’s only children and he would always tell us that the “Mayes family name would end with him” unless one of us kept it. Our father ended up passing away when we were young and it then felt even more important to us to keep his name alive. However, I believe it is such a beautiful tradition to take your husband’s last name. It’s a symbol of two becoming one, and of finally establishing your own family.
My husband is an amazing man and always told me it was my decision on whether or not I wanted to change my name because he knew the sentiment behind it. When the time came I decided to take his last name, and moved my maiden name to my middle name. I thought it was a special way to honor my old family and my new one. I feel so blessed to be a Roberts and I know my dad would be proud.
This might be very cheesy but I think the most exciting part about changing my name was the first time I signed “Ally Roberts”! It was for a UPS package at work but I thought it was the coolest thing ever! I also love signing all of our thank your cards “From, The Roberts”. It feels like a tangible way of officially starting our own little family. So far the hardest part about changing my name has just been the waiting! Waiting for paperwork to be finalized and new documents to be sent out so we can change the big things like health insurance and joint bank accounts.
The MissNowMrs service is genius. I wouldn’t even have known where to start, and to have it all in one place and sent to my door pre-filled out?! Amazing! I also love how the packet included steps to change your name with various other companies and agencies – I didn’t even think about changing my name on store cards and subscription services. I would recommend MissNowMrs to every single bride!
Ally’s Newlywed Advice
First piece of advice, is to bask in the mushy love fest that being newlyweds is! We have so enjoyed one another in our wedding and honeymoon “love hangover!” Second piece of advice, is to be patient – with each other and with life. My husband and I have felt this pressure to hurry up and start our lives, but luckily we have lovely family and friends who have reminded us we have an eternity to do life together so just slow down and soak in the moments.
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Gorgeous photos by Daniel at The Indigo West